Newly Wed Tip #6 - Schedule a Meeting every week

Newly Wed Tip #6 - Schedule a Weekly Meeting Together

 

This may sound silly but this was the best advice I heard and I heard it from an amazing call from my company! I want to share it with you, because it has helped us so much! Schedule a meeting every week with your husband.

Why? Because life is busy and it pulls you in all different directions. And when you have kids it will pull you in even more directions. These meetings will allow you to sit down and talk about the week, the coming week, the future, things that upset, things you need to have changed, and things you might need help with. This allows you both to be on the same page and allows you to both see what is going on in each others lives and thoughts.

Rich and I meet every week. Either on Friday or Saturday night, depending on which day works that week. Unfortunately most weeks we have to go to a restaurant to meet, because we live at home with my parents and want it to be private and uninterrupted. I do not recommend doing it at a restaurant BUT if you do, do what we do. When we go to the restaurant we go an hour early. We sit and have our meeting for an hour and then we order dinner and make it a date night. We let the waitress or waiter know that we want to order dinner but it will be an hour till we do, because we are meeting first. We always tell them that if we need anything we will flag them down. This lets them know not to interrupt us and also lets them know we will be ordering, just to give us time.

These meetings have really helped our marriage. Its our time to be honest and upfront about how we feel, what we are thinking, what we want, etc. Sometimes the meetings are hard and feelings are hurt, but its better to do it over a meeting, then blow up at each other and say things we will regret.

Each meeting, we take turns going first, we start with something positive and then talk about what is on our minds, or what might of made us mad this week, or things that the other person needs to work on, or what we have going on this coming week or month

Whatever you talk about at your meeting, BE HONEST!!! BE OPEN!!! TALK!!! Theses meetings help! We get everything off our chests and talk about the future and where we are heading. When you talk each week, it allows the communication between the 2 of you to grow and become more open with each other. IT also allows you to get things off your chest and not stay quiet and build up anger and resentment. Some weeks you will have more to talk about then others. Make sure you talk each week though. Don't just shluff it off if you don't have anything to say, once you start talking you will think of things. Or write them down as they happen so you can remember come meeting time.



Newly Wed Tip #2 Phones away

Tip #2 Phones away!

This might seem like a no brainer and easy enough to do, but its easier said then done. We all have cell phones now a days and we can keep them near us at all times. However, have you looked around lately when you are out shopping, or eating dinner? No one looks up any more. No one notices life happening any more because they are glued to their cell phones at all times. This was happening to us!

I own my own online health and fitness business so its hard for me to not have my phone on me at all times and out so that I can answer questions and respond back to my clients and team. And I was doing this at dinner!!! If my phone wasn't around me and I heard it go off, I would get up from the dinner table and go find it and respond back. RUDE!!! Right?!?!

My husband never said anything but he would have his phone out too and when I could pick mine up and respond to someone he would pick his up and look at it. We weren't talking! I didn't  know what went on in his day and I wasn't telling him about my dad because I was GLUED to my phone.

Well now ANY time we sit down to eat together, mostly just dinner, we turn phones on silent . or leave them in another room and ignore them if and when they go off. Man has it helped!!! We now talk about our days, plans for the weekend, what is in store for the week or tomorrow, etc. Its nice talking at the dinner table and not worrying about my phone.

I know that my clients and team will wait for me to respond and I know they wouldn't want me to respond during my dinner time because I wouldn't want them to respond during theirs.

So as easy as this tip might seem. Try it! We take for granted the moments we have and the time we have to talk about things. Cell phones have taken away the intimacy that once was there. Bring it back! Get rid of your phone. Its only a half hour to an hour time. Enjoy the time with your spouse!