Newly Wed Tip #7 - Marriage isn't perfect so don't think it!

Newly Wed Tip #7 - Marriage isn't perfect so don't think it!

 

 

 

 

We all know life isn't perfect and it never will be! So why would marriage? Don't get me wrong, I thought once we were married life would be easier and less complicated. I thought the first year would be smooth sailing, romantic and no fights!! HA!!! Was I wrong!

 

When you marry someone, you have to learn to live with them, learn to put them first, learn their quirks, learn to know when to speak up, fight for what you want, walk away when battle is over, and love unconditionally.

 

Marriage is a path worth taking as long as you are willing to go the distance, willing to last a lifetime, willing to take the good with the bad, the ups with the downs.

 

Our marriage is far from perfect. We live with my parents in a bedroom that is too small for the two of us and all our belongings, he has a job that takes up too much time, he got hurt and had to have surgery and we have only been married for 4 months!! But we have big dreams. He has allowed me to start my business and do something that I am passionate about. We fight, sometimes daily, but we always, always talk it out. No not right away, but before the weeks over we talk about it. Yes, even sometimes we go to bed mad! No its not ideal, but sometime we need extra time, but we always, always talk about it, solve the problem, and apologize when it's our fault.

We by far do not have a perfect marriage and never will. We will never go a week without fighting or making one or the other mad, but that is okay. Getting upset and mad at each other, will mean that we still love each other and care about each other! Getting upset and mad means there is still passion in our marriage and that is what I want! I never want the passion to die!

 

Don't get me wrong there are days we want to kill each other, days he annoys me and days I annoy him. But when it comes down to the end of the day, there is no other guy I would want to spend the rest of my life with. He is the last person I want to see before I fall asleep and the first person I want to see when I wake up!

 

 

So I will continue to take the good with the bad, knowing that our marriage is not a fairytale and never will be. I will continue to remind myself that it wont be easy, BUT it is and will always be WORTH it!

 

Remember Love is overcoming obstacles, fighting to stay together, holding on to one another and never, ever letting go!

 

I always say we are making learning and making memories. Marriage is full of lessons, so why not look at them in a positive light and make memories with them. No the fights might not be memorable but the makes up and apologizes always are.

 

So next time you fight with your husband, fiancé, or boyfriend, remember he is worth it, remember the life you want to spend with him, and remember to learn from it and make a memory of it. Life is too short and you never know what is going to happen tomorrow. So hug your spouse / significant other a little tighter today!

 

 

  

Newly Wed Tip #2 Phones away

Tip #2 Phones away!

This might seem like a no brainer and easy enough to do, but its easier said then done. We all have cell phones now a days and we can keep them near us at all times. However, have you looked around lately when you are out shopping, or eating dinner? No one looks up any more. No one notices life happening any more because they are glued to their cell phones at all times. This was happening to us!

I own my own online health and fitness business so its hard for me to not have my phone on me at all times and out so that I can answer questions and respond back to my clients and team. And I was doing this at dinner!!! If my phone wasn't around me and I heard it go off, I would get up from the dinner table and go find it and respond back. RUDE!!! Right?!?!

My husband never said anything but he would have his phone out too and when I could pick mine up and respond to someone he would pick his up and look at it. We weren't talking! I didn't  know what went on in his day and I wasn't telling him about my dad because I was GLUED to my phone.

Well now ANY time we sit down to eat together, mostly just dinner, we turn phones on silent . or leave them in another room and ignore them if and when they go off. Man has it helped!!! We now talk about our days, plans for the weekend, what is in store for the week or tomorrow, etc. Its nice talking at the dinner table and not worrying about my phone.

I know that my clients and team will wait for me to respond and I know they wouldn't want me to respond during my dinner time because I wouldn't want them to respond during theirs.

So as easy as this tip might seem. Try it! We take for granted the moments we have and the time we have to talk about things. Cell phones have taken away the intimacy that once was there. Bring it back! Get rid of your phone. Its only a half hour to an hour time. Enjoy the time with your spouse!

Marriage is not EASY!!! It isn't roses and romance all the time. It isn't sweet talks and fun 24/7! Marriage is tough! It's hard. It's stressful. And sometimes it can be no fun! BUT guess what.....it's worth it!

 

If you find that right guy, the one that treats you like a princess, knows when to apologize, knows when to compliment you, knows when to just give you a hug, then the good days, and good times, out weight the bad ones.

 

Tuesday was when Rich and I had been married for 3 MONTHS! Yes only 3 months and this past month has been the hardest and true test to our relationship. With his injury and his surgery, things have been tough, and there are days I just want to scream and cry, but never are there days that I just want to run away. I married my prince charming, my forever love and I wouldn't change it for ANYTHING in the world. I LOVE HIM to the moon and back.

 

We aren't perfect! We are two adults that have lived on their own for so many years that we are learning to live with one another, to think about the other one, to remember its not ALL about ME. However, we communicate, we talk, we listen, and we work things out. Maybe not right away, but we know when other one needs time to cool down and be alone for a while.

 

These past 3 months have been a trial but I wouldn't take them back, I wouldn't change anything, and I certainly wouldn't be where I am today. I am Mrs. Yahner. I am married to an amazing, caring, loving, spoiled, stubborn Irish man. And I love him for everything that he is and all his weird quirks. He is my number one fan. He supports me in my dreams, and he helps me be a better more open person each day. I am thankful everyday that God brought him into my life, because I don't know where I would be without him today!

 

Rich I love you more than you will ever know. These past 3 months have been amazing, stressful, and an adventure and I wouldn't want anyone else by side going through all of it, other than you!!!

Good Morning! Happy Wednesday!!!

For things to be different, you have to DO something different!

If you want things to change, if you want to lose weight, get a new job, have more energy, then you need to change and do things that will help you loose weight, get you that new job, or give you more energy!

Sitting around wishing won't get you anywhere, like sitting around complaining about it won't get you anywhere.

Stop complaining, stop wishing and START DOING!! You got this!! Remember if you want something to change you have to change and do something different!

Need help? Need that push to change? Message me! I am here for you and would love to give you the push you need to get changing.